The first date is one of the most important events in a new relationship and know that how you communicate is a key factor in making him interested in seeing you again. If a guy is interested in a second date, he will likely try to make plans for it before you end the first one. Or an interested man will contact you within a few days to try and schedule another date to see you. If he calls you several weeks after your date, he’s really not that interested in you. If you call him once, and he doesn’t return your call, try him again in about a week. If you haven’t heard from him after calling once or twice, just stop calling. He’s moved on. Other reasons that a man doesn’t call or make plans right away include having some drama/crisis going on in his life or emotional hang-ups. This means no follow-through can be a sign of low interest or a red flag. Read full article

A beauty transformation is an integral part of your dating action plan. A beauty transformation is about maximizing your physical beauty to the fullest. Your transformation is about making the most of whatever God has given you to work with and improving the aspects of your appearance that are within your control (weight, fitness, overall health, hair, skin, etc.). It is about dressing in a manner that allows you to show off your best assets, whether that be your legs, cleavage, butt, face or hair. I don’t mean getting oversized boobs or other types of drastic cosmetic surgery, but maximizing your physical attributes/features to always look your best. If you want to enjoy a vibrant dating life, you may need to undergo a beauty transformation as described in Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating. In the book, I share techniques that any woman can use to look and feel her best–and maximize her physical beauty without cosmetic surgery.

Her 10 steps to a beauty transformation are: Read full article

This is a woman’s guide to finding and meeting single men! Many women ask, “Where are all the good men?” Single women indicate that is difficult to find available, attractive, healthy, and financially stable men today. But, eligible men are in places you may never expect. This eBook provides new, creative ideas for meeting more men. This guide well help you find the type of man that you desire so that you can easily pinpoint specific locations to find him. In this eBook, you will learn the absolute best places to meet men! This eBook also comes with a worksheet to help you target specific locations to in the DC area. Read full article

While dating a man, there are many different roles that we can play. However, most of us end up playing the role that he chooses for us. It is time that we take control of our dating life and decide if we want to be in his life. Instead of trying to make the relationship something it is never gonna be, you decide if the role he wants you to play is acceptable to you. In my book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, I discuss the 5 roles that a man may want you to play. This will allow you to determine if that role is right for you and meets your needs at that particular time in your life. Only you should decide if you want to play that role and continue in the relationship with him. If not, quickly move on to the next guy. Trying to make a relationship something it’s not is a waste of time!

There is one role that I discuss in the book that most women strive for and that is the role of Wifey/Girlfriend. If a man is really into you, he will want you to play this role in his life. The Wifey/Girlfriend is that role reserved for the one person he feels is irreplaceable in his life. Wifey/Girlfriend is the sexiest, most successful, and most respected of all the women. He respects her, either her talents, knowledge, faith or something else beyond how she looks. He generally respects and admires many aspects of her persona. These women are often sweet and kind. They soften a man and allow him to be masculine. They are warm, kind and bring peace to his life. They generally are understanding and supportive in his life’s endeavors and she is the first to hear of important news in his life. She is loved, needed and wanted by her man. She is the woman that a guy will love and will always love, and he never wants to see her with another man. In short, if he is really into you, he will want you to play this most important role in his life. So, how can you tell if he wants you to play the role of Wifey/Girlfriend? Here are some signs to know if he sees you as Wifey/Girlfriend material:
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Do You Know Where To Find The “Good” Men & Women In DC?

Well….We Do! Come join us for this great evening of live music, poetry, relationship discussions, and after party on Saturday, March 27th!

Join the real life “Hitch” PAUL CARRICK BRUNSON (http://onedegreefrom.me), author NIKKI NOKES (http://www.nikkinokes.com), spoken word artists, and a panel of experts for a night of entertainment and real talk about sex, love and relationships!

TICKETS for show and VIP after party can be purchased at http://moderndaymatchmaker.eventbrite.com  (PLEASE USE My Discount Code:  JJSMITH for a $5 discount!) Read full article

JJ asks the Fellas what causes a man to commit to one woman. They also discuss the differences between commitment and monogamy. When does a man ask a woman to be his wife or girlfriend?

The first date is one of the most important events in a new relationship. First dates are important because they can either make a man eager to see you again or make him run for the highway. Know that your communication is key to making him interested in seeing you again.

Considering the location of the first date is one of the most critical decisions that need to be made. The first date location will affect the way you interact with each other so be sure to find an environment where you’ll both feel relaxed and comfortable. The other critical factor in a successful first date is your conversation, which should be light and upbeat to complete the overall first date experience.

When communicating on a first date, it is important to let a guy get to know you before you begin to share too many details about your views and your past. For most of us, the rough times in our lives have allowed us to grow and become the people we are today. However, until someone gets to know you, they may not understand or may pass judgments on some your past mistakes. Here are some tips for what NOT to talk about on your first date:

1. Getting Married: It scares men to get married to someone they love. This is definitely not a conversation he wants to have with a woman he barely knows.
2. Your Kids: You love your kids and they interest you. However, to a man, this just indicates increased responsibility or baby daddy drama.
3. Your Horrible Childhood: Don’t seek pity for injustices in your past; it will make you appear hurt, wounded and in need of healing.
4. Ex-Boyfriends: This is a no-win situation. If you say something positive about an ex-boyfriend, a man will feel threatened or discouraged. If you say how he cheated on you constantly, he will think you are weak and a pushover. The truth is that there’s no good outcome likely to result from talking about an ex on the first date. Read full article

JJ Smith discusses the real reason why men cheat. This is the truth that no one is telling you. JJ explains why monogamy is unnatural for men.

JJ asks the Fellas for things a woman can do if she seriously wants to get married and keep a husband. Each Fella lists 3 things that help a woman to get and keep a man, as well as things that decrease her chances of keeping a man. This is good input from the Fellas for those ladies who want to settle down and get married.

JJ asks the Fellas what they think about wigs, weaves, and extensions…And, you will be surprised what they say!