Do You Know Where To Find The “Good” Men & Women In DC?

Well….We Do! Come join us for this great evening of live music, poetry, relationship discussions, and after party on Saturday, March 27th!

Join the real life “Hitch” PAUL CARRICK BRUNSON (http://onedegreefrom.me), author NIKKI NOKES (http://www.nikkinokes.com), spoken word artists, and a panel of experts for a night of entertainment and real talk about sex, love and relationships!

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The first date is one of the most important events in a new relationship. First dates are important because they can either make a man eager to see you again or make him run for the highway. Know that your communication is key to making him interested in seeing you again.

Considering the location of the first date is one of the most critical decisions that need to be made. The first date location will affect the way you interact with each other so be sure to find an environment where you’ll both feel relaxed and comfortable. The other critical factor in a successful first date is your conversation, which should be light and upbeat to complete the overall first date experience.

When communicating on a first date, it is important to let a guy get to know you before you begin to share too many details about your views and your past. For most of us, the rough times in our lives have allowed us to grow and become the people we are today. However, until someone gets to know you, they may not understand or may pass judgments on some your past mistakes. Here are some tips for what NOT to talk about on your first date:

1. Getting Married: It scares men to get married to someone they love. This is definitely not a conversation he wants to have with a woman he barely knows.
2. Your Kids: You love your kids and they interest you. However, to a man, this just indicates increased responsibility or baby daddy drama.
3. Your Horrible Childhood: Don’t seek pity for injustices in your past; it will make you appear hurt, wounded and in need of healing.
4. Ex-Boyfriends: This is a no-win situation. If you say something positive about an ex-boyfriend, a man will feel threatened or discouraged. If you say how he cheated on you constantly, he will think you are weak and a pushover. The truth is that there’s no good outcome likely to result from talking about an ex on the first date. Read full article

JJ asks the Fellas what they think about wigs, weaves, and extensions…And, you will be surprised what they say!

Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas discuss the differences between good sex and great sex (sex that is memorable). The Fellas also discuss “bad sex!”  Also, the best breakdown of “aw skeet skeet skeet” from the Lil John song!

To read Part 1:  The Real Reasons 70% of Black Women are Single:  It’s Not What They’re Telling You! (Part 1)

In Part 1, I stated that we’ve all heard on Oprah, CNN, ABC News, and the Washington Post that 70% of black women are single, and 42% are unmarried.  Many news organizations have provided the statistics, but I’ve rarely seen these media outlets offer any real solutions.  So, our radio show, “Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas” will be discussing this topic the entire month of January and offering real solutions to this challenge.  I will begin by offering a few solutions below:    

*Please note that everything is not for everyone, so some of these suggestions may be right for you and others may not.  Be open-minded and feel free to share other suggestions that have worked for you.  My suggestions are listed below:

1. Do NOT Settle, but DO Compromise:  I am not suggesting you settle or lower standards, but if you look at “the list” of what you’re looking for a man, there may be some areas in which you can compromise.  As an example, does he have to be a certain height, skin color, or education/income level?  Can you be satisfied with him if he earns a bit less than you?  However, I would not recommend you compromise on the things that are non-negotiable, such as character, morals, and religious beliefs.  A man’s character is not tied to his monetary, education or financial status, so be sure to look at “who he is” and not “what he has” if you seriously want to pursue meaningful love relationships.
2. Invest In His Potential:  Now I will begin this suggestion by saying, “proceed with extreme caution!”  I have seen women successfully do this and others like myself, have been burned.  In fact, when I was in my 20s, I dated a man who made about a third of what I earned and at the end of the relationship, I ended up $80,000 poorer.  But if he is a man of good character and morals (which is most important) and you see him making a genuine effort to grow spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially and has solid plans for his life, then INVEST IN HIM.  Investing in him means to be his helpmate to help him achieve his goals.  This may mean providing some reasonable amount of financial assistance to help him pursue an education or helping him grow spiritually or emotionally.  For some women, they will get a return on their investment with a long-term committed relationship with him, but for others, he may still upgrade you when he becomes more financially successful; but that is the chance you take.   Be careful of the men who just want to “marry up” and build their wealth and status by marrying you.  These types of men are trying to gain wealth and status by any means necessary and will almost always trade you in for a younger, prettier women once they get to a higher level of financial success.
3. Don’t Just Date Brothers, Date Others (Outside Your Race):  For a lot of Black women, one of the most difficult things for them to do is to date outside of their race.  There are many reasons Black women tend not to date outside their race; Some Black women want a man that reminds them of their daddy and some feel they are only attracted to Black men.  However, with the number of “datable” black men declining, how long are you going to wait for someone who statistically may not be available?  If you’re doing all the right things to be sure that you’re ready for a relationship and are still challenged with meeting Black men with compatible lifestyles (social backgrounds, economic status, education levels), then dating outside your race may be a good option for you.  Now, who you date of course is a matter of personal preference and I’m not trying to encourage you to stop dating Black men.  I know for me, I love and admire Black men so much that my personal preference for Black men would probably always keep me from dating outside my race.  However, if you’re challenged with having enough options in men, dating outside your race will expand your dating pool significantly.
4. Move to Cities Where the Men Outnumber the Women:  Even though nationally, women outnumber men, there are some male-dominated cities that have more single men than single women.  A few of the best cities to meet single men over 35 include San Jose, California, Salt Lake City, Utah, Arlington, Texas, and Raleigh, North Carolina.  In my eBook, 101 Best Places to Meet Men, I list 101 places where the men generally outnumber the women.  In the past, women typically met men in grocery stores, gyms, bars/lounges, church, work, gyms/exercise centers, and car shows. These places are still great options for meeting men, but they have also gotten stale and simply don’t generate the quantity of dates required for women to have enough options.  Many single women don’t know the best places for meeting a large quantity of men.  So this eBook provides you with 101 places where you can go to increase your chances of meeting more men.  A friend of mine is a great fisherman and he spends a considerable amount of time planning the best locations to find fish for that day.  It’s the same with dating.  If you don’t put yourself in the places to meet more men, you’re never going to find them.  You will have to participate in activities and go to places that are dominated by men.  These are locations where the men typically outnumber the women.  And sistas, if you are living in Atlanta and still complaining about not finding a “good black man” then your dating woes are likely to continue with female to male ratio being something like 20 to 1.

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This video, Why You Must Know Your Relationship Market Value (RMV) Before You Begin Dating, is a book excerpt from JJ Smith’s new book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating by JJ Smith found at www.jjsmithonline.com. J.J. Smith is a Dating and Relationship Expert, Author, Radio Host, and Corporate Executive. She has recently appeared on FOX5, NBC4, Glamour Magazine, the Jamie Foxx Show, the Montel Williams Show and the Michael Baisden Show discussing provocative topics on love, dating, sex and relationships. She is also the host of “Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas.”

This video, Where Are All the Good Men? Here’s Where They Are!, is book excerpt from Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating by JJ Smith found at www.jjsmithonline.com

Hot New Internet Radio Show Guarantees to Help Single Women Find Love!

J.J. Smith, Dating Expert and Author of Why I Love Men:  The Joys of Dating Launches New Radio Show, Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas which Takes an Honest, Informative and Shocking Look at Love, Dating, Sex and Relationships.  Visit www.jjsmithonline.com

Washington, D.C. July 2009 –  In this hypercompetitive dating environment, where women significantly outnumber men, a hot new Internet radio show, Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas, offers dating tips and relationship advice to single women. 

J.J. Smith says “Today’s dating environment is extremely competitive.  The odds are much better for men because they are outnumbered by women in every state, except for Alaska and Nevada.  For Black women, it is even more challenging.  In our nation, there are 10 single Black women for every 7 single Black men, and over 70% of Black women are single.  The old rules of dating no longer work and women have no choice but to start to think differently and employ new strategies to attract the ideal man.” 

Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas offers an intelligent, provocative discussion on love, dating, sex and relationships.  The show is based upon J.J. Smith’s book, Why I Love Men:  The Joys of Dating, which gives dating tips and relationship advice to single women.  The radio show will discuss various topics from the book that will help bridge the gap between the sexes and help women understand “what men really think”.  This show, which features J.J. Smith and four men (single, engaged, married and divorced) all offering different perspectives on love, dating, sex and relationships, with their witty, humorous and truth-telling styles.  To meet the cast of the radio show, please watch the Teaser Video on http://www.jjsmithonline.com/jjsmith-radioshow-video.htm.    Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas, which has captured thousands of fans even before the first broadcast has aired, is guaranteed to be compelling, yet informative with upcoming show topics such as:

-         “Sex on the First Date vs. 90 Day Rule” 

-         “What Makes a Man Decide to Commit to One Woman”

-         “Why The Vagina is a Tool of Female Empowerment” 

-         “Why Men Cheat:  Is Monogamy Unnatural for Men?” 

J.J. Smith says, “To be successful dating today, there are new strategies that have worked for numerous other women and they can also work for the millions of single women looking for love.  Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas will share these strategies and secrets with single women who are looking to take their relationships to another level.”

J.J. Smith’s dating and relationship expertise is in high demand, with recent appearances on the “Jamie Foxx Show,” the “Michael Baisden Show,” “Montel Williams:  Montel Across America,”  and the “Guy Black Show. “  In fact, her highly anticipated debut book Why I Love Men:  The Joys of Dating has received excellent industry reviews and even though it is not released until Fall 2009, advanced copies had to be made available for sale due to the demand and excitement for the book.

J.J. Smith’s engaging personality, and no-holds barred dating books offer sometimes controversial guidance that has been grabbing readers and listeners, both men and women alike, and keeping them coming back for more. 

You can hear Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas every other Wednesday from 9-10pm EST on wsRadio.com, the world’s largest internet radio station.  Listeners with questions, comments or opinions are encouraged to call in and participate in the live broadcast.

For more information on the show, please visit http://www.jjsmithonline.com/jjsmith-radio.htm.  To join the Fan Page on Facebook, search for “Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas” to get free insider information, videos, and various discussion forums on topics from the show.  To request an interview with the cast of Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas, please contact J.J. Smith at info@jjsmithonline.com or 202-230-7195.

 About J.J. Smith

J.J. Smith, Author, Radio Personality, Dating Expert, and Corporate Executive in the D.C. metro area.   J.J is the author of Why I Love Men:  The Joys of Dating and several other eBooks. J.J. has recently been featured on the “Jamie Foxx Show,” the “Michael Baisden Show,” “Montel Williams:  Montel Across America,”  and the “Guy Black Show “.   J.J. holds a B.A. in Mathematics from Hampton University and continued her education by completing The Wharton Business School Executive Management certificate program.  J.J. currently serves as Vice President and Partner in an IT Consulting firm in the DC Metro area.  J.J. Smith’s mission is to help women of all ages upgrade the quality of their personal relationships with men!