Online Dating: Why Everyone Must Be Online! This video is book excerpt from JJ Smith’s new book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating at www.jjsmithonline.com.
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I have to admit. I LOVE Facebook! I think about it when I wake up in the mornings. After I get on my knees and pray each day, Facebook is the first thing that I check each morning before I go to work. Sometimes, I am even late for work catching up on Facebook messages that came in overnight. I take my iPhone (with the Facebook application) everywhere I go, including meetings, to ensure I don’t miss a Facebook message. If I happen to attend a meeting without my iPhone, I’m daydreaming about what’s happening on Facebook and wondering if anyone has shared anything uplifting or funny on their wall.
I have a craving and desire for Facebook with feelings similar to that of a romantic love. Facebook has created so my many new friendships in my life and has improved the overall quality of my life beyond my wildest imagination. How could I not love it? I give and receive more love to old and new friends through Facebook every day. My love relationships with my family, friends, and even strangers have strengthened since joining Facebook. The only thing I can conclude is that I LOVE Facebook:-)
Not only have I met some wonderful new friends… but I’ve had experiences in my life since joining Facebook that I could have only dreamed of a year ago. As many of you know, I’ve been a “fan” of a few people in my lifetime: Michelle Obama, Oprah, Denzel Washington, and Jamie Foxx. Both Oprah and Michelle Obama truly inspire me each and every day and I love staying connected to them through their Facebook updates. I have loved the work of Denzel Washington and Jamie Foxx for as long as I can remember. Through Facebook, I was given the opportunity to have Jamie Foxx interview me for 1 hour on his Foxxhole Radio show about my new book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating. I must say that Jamie is far more talented, funnier and smarter than I ever realized. If you’ve been a fan of anyone, you can only imagine how great it is to have a 1 hour conversation with someone you’ve admired and respected for so long. Jamie and his management team gave me my first opportunity to do a national radio show and since that interview, just 4 months ago, I’ve done the Michael Baisden show, Montel Williams, the Guy Black Show, NBC4 Weekend Today, HOT 97, KISS FM, Glamour magazine and so many other radio and TV shows. I am grateful to Jamie Foxx and his management team because they have, without knowing it, allowed so many doors to be opened for me. It is great to know that there are genuinely good people (like Foxx and his management team) who help you tremendously without asking for anything in return.
Every day on Facebook, I receive “luv” messages encouraging me, supporting me, congratulating me and even complimenting me. I call them “luv” messages because I know it’s not real love, because I’ve never met these people before, but I do feel “luv” from them every day. For those who know my story about never being able to get a date when I was younger, you know how much I appreciate the “luv.” Now more than ever before, I believe in the kindness and generosity of strangers…who have become my friends as a result of Facebook.
From a dating perspective, my First Dates, one of the most important events in a new relationship, are so much more enjoyable because of..you guessed it… Facebook! Think about it, you can learn so much about a person from reading their posts, therefore, it’s easy to weed out who it makes sense to spend time with (or not) prior to even going on the First Date. I love the ability to pre-screen dates by just watching the interesting (and sometimes strange) stuff people put on their Facebook wall. So, the First Date is usually better because you already have a sense of who that person is from reading their Facebook posts every day. I’ve had people reach out to me “behind the wall” based upon something I posted (or because of a dress I’ve worn:-) and as a result, I have really met some incredible people! Did I say I love me some Facebook?
Through Facebook, I can exchange great videos, articles, and websites and discover that there are other people in the world who think similar thoughts as me. As a natural introvert, it takes a lot of effort for me to stay connected with people, but through Facebook, I can create and maintain real connections with family and friends. I love Facebook for improving the quality of my relationships!
If Facebook has improved the quality of your life in anyway, please share them with me. I’d love to hear from you!
JJ Smith, The Dating Diva
Author, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating
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It seems everyone is into online dating today. Years back it was taboo to say you had met that special someone over the Internet as today it’s become mainstream. Popular Internet dating sites like www.TheFitnessPersonals.com are making meeting that special someone increasingly easier. With this new medium for induction taking off with it comes some common sense and not so common sense rules to go by.
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These days, more and more singles are finding their perfect mate on the Internet via online dating ? and a few unlucky ones are finding their perfect online dating sob story! The Internet is a faceless communications medium in which any person can be anything they claim to be. This makes it easy for the liars to fool their way into your head and into your heart ? but it can also make for the beginnings of a very strong relationship. Online dating allows you to get to know each other more deeply than just a casual meeting at a bus stop before committing to a meeting. How do you determine whether you?ve caught a keeper or a throw-me-back?
So think you?ve found a perfect bloke!
You?ve been hanging about in your favourite online dating chat room, and just last week this new guy came in. His nickname is RussellCrowe, which set your heart a-thumping the minute you saw it, and of course you had to talk with him. ?You?re not REALLY Russell, are you? No? Do you look like him?? He answers in the negative to both, telling you that he looks better than Crowe, actually. He?s a Sydney barrister, with offices in the CBD. And you?re off and running.
Over the course of a few days you spend ten or twelve hours chatting with him online. You feel like you can tell this man anything, and he seems to be telling you all of the deeper thoughts and feelings he has. How do you know he?s for real? Here are a few ways to find out.
What does he look like?
For starters, always ask for pictures. That is pictures, plural. Why?
A philanderer may have found a generic photograph of some suitable bloke on the web and downloaded it to call his own. It is unlikely that they will have more than one photo to share with you if this is the case. In this modern era of inexpensive digital cameras and high speed connections for uploading images to online dating sites quickly, there is almost no reason for a person not to have three, four, a half-dozen photographs of themselves doing various things, from sitting in their lounge to hoisting a schooner at the hotel and back again. If you?re presented with pictures that were clearly taken all at one sitting, and moreso, if they appear to be professional sorts of images, this should raise a warning bell. If he looks like he?s perfect in the pictures, this too, should raise the alarms. Real people don?t tend to be flawless.
What are his interests?
Does the fellow seem to be interested in everything that you are? Or does he have any interests that you don?t share? If he?s just involved in the things that you mention first, ask him what else he enjoys. An answer of ?Oh, you know, this and that! Let?s talk more about YOU!? is really not what you are looking for. A real human being has strong likes and dislikes of his own, and is generally willing to share them, sometimes in too much detail.
Do you have friends in common?
You both live in Sydney or its environs, and you both chat in the Sydney chat room on hook me up your favourite website. It?s an odds on bet that you?ve got at least one or two online dating friends in common, if not in offline life, then online. Talk to your common friends and ask them about this man. Be prepared to be surprised, but hope for a good report.
Is he consistent?
The number of fakers who are caught through simple inconsistencies is amazing. If he tells you on Monday that he?s a big fan of Cold Chisel, but then on Friday he doesn?t recognize the lyrics to ?When the War is Over?, you may have a problem there. If he tells you that he?s a big Star Wars fan, but doesn?t know which planet Luke Skywalker was from, you should probably be wary. If, on the other hand, he tells you every detail of Luke?s life, and knows how his face got mangled in real life, he?ll be apples, mate!
Is he willing to let you ring him?
If a guy you meet online is unwilling to give you his home telephone number, this could be a sign that he?s got a reason he doesn?t want calls at home ? for example, he?s married or living with somebody. This is not certain, as, for example, some people these days only have mobile phones, and others may be concerned about giving out personal contact information to a total stranger from the Internet. Online dating can be a bit of a challenge for both daters
The show-down!
Of course, nothing will guarantee that this person is everything that they claim to be, except for meeting them in person and really getting to know them. This hold for the world of online dating and chance meetings.
The first few dates should be conducted with some amount of safety precautions, as once again, this is a stranger you are meeting. Just as you wouldn?t want to go off alone with a stranger you?ve just met at a pub, you want to ensure maximum safety with somebody you?ve just met online.
Meet in a well frequented place, for example, under the dome at the QVB.
Bring a friend, and suggest that he bring one as well if you mention this in advance. If you can?t bring a friend for whatever reason, make sure that at least three friends know where you are going and why you are going there. Arrange check-in times to ring them up and let them know that all is well. Also ask them to call you at least once so you can escape if you are on a date with Mr Creepy
Don?t bring a person you?ve just met to your home, nor should you go to theirs. Save that for when you know each other better.
Recap
The simple fact is that most of the people you meet online will be pretty much what they present themselves as, but there?s always one bad apple in every barrel. By checking for consistency, believability, and keeping basic safety in your thoughts without being paranoid, you could end up meeting the person you will marry one day. Anybody who doesn?t feel that expecting these things from a potential date or mate is probably not somebody you want to seriously consider spending much time with, either online or off.
Happy dating!
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Online dating is a dating system through the Internet that brings individuals together to develop romantic relationship. There are various websites that offer online dating services like online chat, web casts and message boards. Members can upload their photos on these sites and also share their personal information with the members. Also, individuals can search for their partners on these websites according to the age, gender and location.
Online Dating Websites
Some online dating websites offer services open to people of all age groups and backgrounds but there are some dating websites such as freephonechatlines.biz, freephonechatline.net, chatline4free.com that also cater to specific communities, and people who wish to chat with partners of same ethnic background can become member of such sites.
Dating websites generally offer free registration and have security and privacy policies, and if any individual performs any illegal act then the account of the individual can be blocked from the site. It will be better to know and understand the rules of the websites and stick to the stated rules for the site.
Dating online through authentic sites is completely secured as the service providers have features of data protection registrars and also strict password system that protects accounts.
Online dating profile
The online dating profile of an individual helps in finding a perfect match. So, firstly select a username that is original and memorable, and also relates with your interests, background, location and personality. After that write an opening line that compels people to read on and find out more about you. Post a photo as majority of the people look for it when browsing through online dating profiles.
And fill the information form completely as it will provide one’s basic information and details to the interested partner.
Writing online personal ads and email
While chatting online, you should be more expressive and communicative as this is the only medium to introduce yourself in the absence of body language. While chatting on a free online dating website, do not misspell words as the other one will perceive you sloppy or uneducated. If your partner is of different race then take care of his or her emotions to ensure long dating relationship period and also avoid using racial spurs.
Tips for Safe Online Dating
Online dating is a unique way to interact and meet different people whom we otherwise would not have been able to meet. But always be cautious while sharing personal information with the strangers online. It would always be better not to list out the last name and address on a dating website or even the name and location of the workplace, either. Also do not share any kind of your financial information.
If you have decided to meet your online partner then meet him at a place well known to you. It’s better to know and interact more with each other online first. And do not meet anyone if you feel suspicious about him or there seems to be holes in his stories.
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J.J. Smith, Dating Expert and Author of Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating Launches New Radio Show, Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas which Takes an Honest, Informative and Shocking Look at Love, Dating, Sex and Relationships. Visit www.jjsmithonline.com
Washington, D.C. July 2009 – In this hypercompetitive dating environment, where women significantly outnumber men, a hot new Internet radio show, Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas, offers dating tips and relationship advice to single women.
J.J. Smith says “Today’s dating environment is extremely competitive. The odds are much better for men because they are outnumbered by women in every state, except for Alaska and Nevada. For Black women, it is even more challenging. In our nation, there are 10 single Black women for every 7 single Black men, and over 70% of Black women are single. The old rules of dating no longer work and women have no choice but to start to think differently and employ new strategies to attract the ideal man.”
Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas offers an intelligent, provocative discussion on love, dating, sex and relationships. The show is based upon J.J. Smith’s book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, which gives dating tips and relationship advice to single women. The radio show will discuss various topics from the book that will help bridge the gap between the sexes and help women understand “what men really think”. This show, which features J.J. Smith and four men (single, engaged, married and divorced) all offering different perspectives on love, dating, sex and relationships, with their witty, humorous and truth-telling styles. To meet the cast of the radio show, please watch the Teaser Video on http://www.jjsmithonline.com/jjsmith-radioshow-video.htm. Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas, which has captured thousands of fans even before the first broadcast has aired, is guaranteed to be compelling, yet informative with upcoming show topics such as:
- “Sex on the First Date vs. 90 Day Rule”
- “What Makes a Man Decide to Commit to One Woman”
- “Why The Vagina is a Tool of Female Empowerment”
- “Why Men Cheat: Is Monogamy Unnatural for Men?”
J.J. Smith says, “To be successful dating today, there are new strategies that have worked for numerous other women and they can also work for the millions of single women looking for love. Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas will share these strategies and secrets with single women who are looking to take their relationships to another level.”
J.J. Smith’s dating and relationship expertise is in high demand, with recent appearances on the “Jamie Foxx Show,” the “Michael Baisden Show,” “Montel Williams: Montel Across America,” and the “Guy Black Show. “ In fact, her highly anticipated debut book Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating has received excellent industry reviews and even though it is not released until Fall 2009, advanced copies had to be made available for sale due to the demand and excitement for the book.
J.J. Smith’s engaging personality, and no-holds barred dating books offer sometimes controversial guidance that has been grabbing readers and listeners, both men and women alike, and keeping them coming back for more.
You can hear Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas every other Wednesday from 9-10pm EST on wsRadio.com, the world’s largest internet radio station. Listeners with questions, comments or opinions are encouraged to call in and participate in the live broadcast.
For more information on the show, please visit http://www.jjsmithonline.com/jjsmith-radio.htm. To join the Fan Page on Facebook, search for “Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas” to get free insider information, videos, and various discussion forums on topics from the show. To request an interview with the cast of Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas, please contact J.J. Smith at info@jjsmithonline.com or 202-230-7195.
About J.J. Smith
J.J. Smith, Author, Radio Personality, Dating Expert, and Corporate Executive in the D.C. metro area. J.J is the author of Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating and several other eBooks. J.J. has recently been featured on the “Jamie Foxx Show,” the “Michael Baisden Show,” “Montel Williams: Montel Across America,” and the “Guy Black Show “. J.J. holds a B.A. in Mathematics from Hampton University and continued her education by completing The Wharton Business School Executive Management certificate program. J.J. currently serves as Vice President and Partner in an IT Consulting firm in the DC Metro area. J.J. Smith’s mission is to help women of all ages upgrade the quality of their personal relationships with men!
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Did you think that the more online dating sites you’re on the better the outcome would be for you? Well, think again. Here is a great example of too much of a good thing.
A really close friend of mine did just that. In fact, she had her profile on seven sites. She was assuming that being on more online dating sites would increase her chances of finding Mr Right. However, she was always complaining about how she had to reply to too many emails and worse, she would always get confused about which potential date was best and who was who.
At first I admired her for being so dedicated but after a while she was getting stressed out and she admitted to having made some poor choices due to getting so confused and busy keeping up with the replies. Why? Well once you get involved with an online dating site (and I recommend you do), you have to keep your profile up to date. That includes your picture ? a must have (sometimes several pictures) with most memberships. You can imagine amending and thinking about the changes and work that goes into changing those details over and over. It depicts a nightmare for me. I’d have issues keeping three online dating sites up to date never mind seven?whew!
Well, here’s what happened. She’s such a good friend, I decided to do some investigative research (look around a bit on the net). I was pleased to discover that a combination of the latest findings indicate the most successful outcomes from online dating sites come from users who commit to just the one online dating site. They dedicate all their attention to that one online dating site. They also do some research before selecting the online dating site that suits them best. That makes sense?right!
The big plus here is that people who are interested in you know where to find you. If they find you on too many online dating sites, well, that can add a desperation element to your profile. You don’t want that!
You can also fish around to see how many people are registered with the online dating site and what kind of quality control they have in place. Don’t join the first online dating site that you come to because the chances are you could do better. Good online dating sites are often promoted well and your single friends may well be able to recommend one they like.
Whatever you decide to do, don’t be like my friend and join a whole bunch of online dating sites. You’ll come unstuck and lose focus (like she did for a while). I showed her what I had learned and she decided to close all of her memberships and start again. Guess what! She is now dating with a clear head and as a result has met some really hot guys.
By the way, this same information applies to guys as well. In fact, most of the people interviewed were in fact guys which shows that the same rule applies to both sexes?.I didn’t tell her that part – she’d kill me if she knew.
Sticking with one online dating site will save you time, money and trouble. Your chances of finding a partner are actually much higher when you stay with the one online dating site. Ditch all those other memberships now.
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