Have you ever met a guy you really liked and thought you hit it off well, but he never called you again? And not only did he never call again, he wouldn't even return your calls anymore, so you have no idea as to why he stopped calling? It could have either been because he's involved with someone else, or you did something to turn him off. But what's most annoying is that you really don't know why he never contacted you again. Well, oftentimes we have some weakness or fatal flaw that really spooked the guy or turned him off. That's why it is your responsibility to identify and fix your fatal flaws (weaknesses) that make you less attractive to men. We call them "fatal flaws" because they typically are the dealbreakers in a relationship. If you think you may have a fatal flaw, you must identify and fix if you are to keep men in your life.
Being single is a great time to fix your fatal flaws and improve yourself to attract new loves into your life. If you don't, they can cause men to miss or overlook so many of your wonderful positive traits. Some typical fatal flaws include body odor, bad skin, too much makeup, no manners/rudeness, a negative attitude, unkempt hair, just to name a few. I could go on, but you get the point.
It's important to note that it will not be an easy task to identify your fatal flaws. If they were easy to identify and fix, you probably would have done so by now. In my book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, I give more examples of other types of fatal flaws to help you determine if you have a fatal flaw that's hurting your love life. You will need to get honest feedback from your close family and trusted friends. Ask your family and close friends, "What's the worst personality trait I have?" If they love you, they will tell you. If they are honest and tell you some specific things, don't get mad; start working to improve them right away.
If you have a few close male friends, you could ask one of them what type of first impression you make to others. Men will typically tell you the truth, and they aren't as sensitive or worried as women are about hurting your feelings. And when they tell you, write down the exact words they use to describe you-both the positive and negative characteristics. This is about better understanding those areas in your life that you need to improve to attract more men into your life.
If a man is originally attracted to you, he's going to either do one of two things. Be more attracted to you and want to see you more, or be less interested in you and want to see you less or even not at all. Be sure not to be fake and hide your fatal flaws; actually work towards fixing them so they won't become an issue later. A man will likely leave you, whether it's one week or one year into the relationship, if you have fatal flaws he cannot tolerate. Be sure to fix your fatal flaws so that you attract and keep men in your life.
J.J. Smith is a Dating Diva who offers a fresh perspective on dating and relationships that will help you create a wonderful life that attracts the best men for you and get the love you really want! To learn more about her highly anticipated book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, as well as other eBooks and free articles, visit www.jjsmithonline.com Copyright © 2009 J.J. Smith
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