“Hanging Out” with a group of women limits your ability to meet men and may be the number 1 reason you do not meet more men when you go out. Now if you want to have a girls night out, by all means do so, and enjoy the company of your sisters. But you should limit the number of women you hang out with in one setting when you want to meet new men. The number one reason for this is that men will be less inclined to approach you if you’re with a larger group. Men have a fear of being rejected, and it’s even worse to be rejected in front of several women. Try to hang out with one woman at best when you’re “man hunting,” and even if you do hang out with one woman, don’t stay glued to her all night. Just plan on connecting at a pre-arranged time but mingle alone. You will be much more approachable to men if you are by yourself. If you are out to meet men with a bunch of women, free yourself from the pack, be confident and go mingle alone. Give this strategy a try, and I think you’ll see that it increases the number of men you meet while you’re out.
Additionally, maybe you have a girlfriend who you’ve come to know, and you realize that she is a little strange. Please spend quality time with her in your girls’ one-on-one time, like when you’re going to the mall. Odd women really turn men off, and everyone else for that matter. They dress bad when they hang out, they diss a man every time he opens his mouth, or they sit at a table and play games on their phone the whole time you’re out. These women are challenged interpersonally, and they need to work on their social skills before they’re ready to hang out and meet guys with you.
Most women have a more attractive or drop-dead gorgeous girlfriend that they hang out with. This situation can be overcome in several ways so that you can get your fair share of attention. First, having a gorgeous friend is good because she can get you into VIP rooms and open up other opportunities to meet more guys. One thing to remember is that there are a lot of men who know they don’t stand a chance with her, so they will go to the woman they feel is more approachable, which may be you. The other thing to do is to hang out with friends who have a different look or style than you; that way, you’ll each attract different types of men. One of my girlfriends is earthy and Afrocentric, with natural hair; she attracts guys that I generally do not.
Let’s say you’re looking to meet men and you have a girlfriend who is a cockblocker. You know, this is the type of woman who says something negative about every guy who wants to talk to you. Be sure to separate yourself from her so guys stand a chance of talking to you. Mingle alone and meet up with your girlfriend at pre-arranged timeframes. Sometimes a girlfriend can simply be too clingy. When I go out, I like to meet men. My book is called, Why I Love Men. So, clingy girlfriends don’t give me a time to mingle and enjoy male companionship. So, mingle alone and meet up with your girlfriend at pre-arranged timeframes.
J.J. Smith is a Dating Diva who offers a fresh perspective on dating and relationships that will help you create a wonderful life that attracts the best men for you and get the love you really want! To learn more about her highly anticipated book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, as well as other eBooks and free articles, visit www.jjsmithonline.com Copyright © 2009 J.J. Smith |
