While dating a man, there are many different roles that we can play. However, most of us end up playing the role that he chooses for us. It is time that we take control of our dating life and decide if we want to be in his life. Instead of trying to make the relationship something it is never gonna be, you decide if the role he wants you to play is acceptable to you. In my book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, I discuss the 5 roles that a man may want you to play. This will allow you to determine if that role is right for you and meets your needs at that particular time in your life. Only you should decide if you want to play that role and continue in the relationship with him. If not, quickly move on to the next guy. Trying to make a relationship something it’s not is a waste of time.
There is one role that I discuss in the book that most women strive for and that is the role of Wifey/Girlfriend. If a man is really into you, he will want you to play this role in his life. The Wifey/Girlfriend is that role reserved for the one person he feels is irreplaceable in his life. Wifey/Girlfriend is the sexiest, most successful, and most respected of all the women. He respects her, either her talents, knowledge, faith or something else beyond how she looks. He generally respects and admires many aspects of her persona. These women are often sweet and kind. They soften a man and allow him to be masculine. They are warm, kind and bring peace to his life. They generally are understanding and supportive in his life’s endeavors and she is the first to hear of important news in his life. She is loved, needed and wanted by her man. She is the woman that a guy will love and will always love, and he never wants to see her with another man. In short, if he is really into you, he will want you to play this most important role in his life. So, how can you tell if he wants you to play the role of Wifey/Girlfriend? Here are some signs to know if he sees you as Wifey/Girlfriend material:
- He wants to spend significant time with you and even shows public displays of affection with you.
- He seeks your opinion and approval on things that matter to him and you become his best friend.
- He introduces you to his mom, family, friends and co-workers. You fit into his social lifestyle.
- His sexual interest is generally always there.
- He leaves you alone at his place or leaves his phone unattended.
- He falls asleep cuddling you.
- He enjoys looking at photos of you.
- He’ll call you several times throughout the day, just to chat or check in.
- It’s difficult for him to say no to you.
- He’ll ask you on a date and spend time with you outside of the house.
- He introduces you as his woman, girl, lady, etc.
- He attends a wedding or funeral (emotionally charged events) with you.
If your man is doing most of the items above, you can rest assured that he is really into you, and you are playing that ever important role of Wifey/Girlfriend in his life. Knowing the role we play in the dating relationship is empowering because it is about taking control of our dating life and making decisions that are best for us. Remember, trying to make a relationship something that it is not is a waste of time.
J.J. Smith is a Dating Diva who offers a fresh perspective on dating and relationships that will help you create a wonderful life that attracts the best men for you and get the love you really want! To learn more about her highly anticipated book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, as well as other eBooks and free articles, visit www.jjsmithonline.com Copyright © 2009 J.J. Smith |
